As a woman, we bring our own background, character, personality, and experiences to our roles as moms and most of the time; this is a beautiful thing. Our kids are unique— one of a kind, and so are we. If we look at the love and nurturing God has for us, we can see the example that we need to follow to nurture our own children.
I once heard a saying that pertains to moms, “Don’t take too much of the credit or too much of the blame.” Sometimes we think their cleverness must be related somehow to our brilliant instruction and training, but then God gives us a seismic shift when we discover that our children are made in His image and not ours! We get to enjoy them and care for them as their mom, but ultimately they are the Lord’s creation.
I’m honored to be a mom. I can wholeheartedly say that I have learned and grown more from raising my two sons than from any other experience and for that, I am very grateful. When I think of the Proverbs 31 woman, that her children rise and call her blessed, I am thankful that my hairy chested, muscular, bearded young men (that used to be my baby boys) are happy that I am their mom.
Here are a few tips I learned along the way in that last 25 years:
1. Put God first in your life – a mom that spends time with the Lord and is nurturing her faith will learn that most battles are fought on our knees. Prayer, prayer, and then more prayer is so important as you also enjoy fellowship with other moms. If we seek to grow in our own lives discovering our passion, purpose, and peace, then we can transfer those same joys to our children. A happy, satisfied and contented mom is a mom available to be present with her children. Don’t expect the kids to make you happy. Trust God to bring that peace and contentment.
2. Nurture your marriage – I know I am writing an article on motherhood, but the greatest gift you will ever give your children is a healthy marriage. Your son needs to know how to treat a wife as a priority with love, and your daughter needs to learn how to respect her husband one day. Parents are their training ground. They are watching you both and learning every step of the way. Avoid a child-centered home. God created Adam and Eve first, and then children entered the picture. Your kids are a welcome addition but should not be the center of your universe.
3. Discover your children’s strengths and weaknesses and nurture their individuality- My son with Asperger’s started his college essay off with a quote from Albert Einstein, “Everyone is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it too will feel like a failure.” Find out what your kid is good at and nurture him there. In kindergarten, Jake asked, “Mom what’s more- everlasting or infinity?” I was puzzled and guessed infinity. He said, “Mom everlasting is time and infinity is numbers. Time was before numbers so everlasting is more!” Well ok then, and now, he’s a stand-up comedian. Not what I would have guessed but he uses his brilliance and comparisons to come up with hilarious comedy skits and routines. I’ll take it! His purpose is to bring joy to a dark world, and that, my Friend, is a beautiful thing.
If you find yourself needing encouragement, or a mom pep talk, or partnership with a fellow mom whose been in the trenches, please call me just to talk.
I’d love to visit with you and see how we can help you be the best mom that you can be.
Wife, Mom of 2 sons, Zach (25) and Jake (23), Life Coach